Over-Familiarisation

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Oct 22, 2014 3:14 pm

Nothing raises my hackles as much as this.

I had another Instance tonight where I Informed a supermarket Cashier who I had never seen In my life before ' I am not, never have been nor will ever, be, ' your lovely'.

I was raised to be polite to strangers. Unless they ask me to call them by their first name, I'll call a plod ' Officer'. I call men and women Sir or Madam If I have never met them before and even If I know people In my street, I still offer Mrs or Mr. Young people I don't know, I call ' young lady or young man.'

So, Sorry, I object to ' my darling, my lovely, my sweetheart' etc and the one that really makes me want to vomit, the one where someone you just met, calls you ' my friend'...usually practised by Liberal Democrats but all the same.

If I call someone ' mate' It's because they are my mate. I don't expect to be called ' mate' by a cashier who looks about 14 years old.

Maybe I'm just old fashioned but It annoys the heck out of me.

Post by **Betty Boop** » Wed Oct 22, 2014 3:30 pm

Is it really worth getting wound up by it... my lovely.

(You asked for that :wah:)

Here in Cornwall you would have weather 'alreet me cock'

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Oct 22, 2014 3:41 pm

Betty Boop;1466684 wrote: Is it really worth getting wound up by it... my lovely.

(You asked for that :wah:)

Here in Cornwall you would have weather 'alreet me cock' There are some circumstances where It doesn't bother me. My elderly neighbour greets me with ' Mornin my lover' most days. It doesn't bother me In London when someone will call my husband ' Guvner' or me ' Treacle' but It's In arena's where someone Is providing a service ie serving you, a complete stranger, at the till... me old china

FourPart · Post by **FourPart** » Wed Oct 22, 2014 11:10 pm

If you want to treated with snobbish faux respect like that, shop at Harrods. If you want true, down to earth friendliness, be happy to be called "My Lovely". It's in no way a term of disrespect. To expect anything else is like expressing a desire to revert to the Victorian class system of the Working Class being expected to doff their caps & say "Thank You" to the 'nobs when they kick them & apologise for soiling their boots in so doing.

I know my place.

(Unfortunately, not the full sketch - surprisingly, I couldn't find one on YouTube)

Bruv · Post by **Bruv** » Thu Oct 23, 2014 5:08 am

Oscar Namechange;1466683 wrote: Maybe I'm just old fashioned but It annoys the heck out of me.

Yup you are.

AnneBoleyn · Post by **AnneBoleyn** » Thu Oct 23, 2014 7:16 am

I really get pissed off when some middle-aged black lady who is usually some old white broad's aide calls me 'momma'. I say quite strongly, 'I'm NOT your momma.' It only happened twice, about 2-3 years ago & has never happened since, thank goodness, but it had happened 2 weeks in a row & I thought it was becoming a trend.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Thu Oct 23, 2014 7:50 am

AnneBoleyn;1466689 wrote: I really get pissed off when some middle-aged black lady who is usually some old white broad's aide calls me 'momma'. I say quite strongly, 'I'm NOT your momma.' It only happened twice, about 2-3 years ago & has never happened since, thank goodness, but it had happened 2 weeks in a row & I thought it was becoming a trend.

Good for you !!!

I just think there's a time and a place for everything. If you know someone, even remotely, then fine. To be fair, If you approach staff In Sainsbury's to Inquire where the split pea's are, they will call you Madam and lead you to the aisle.

Even with the police, they'll call you by Mrs L but then as you get to know them, they always ask first whether It's OK to call you Julie.

I was on the phone a few years ago to a Police Inspector and he said ' OK Sweetheart, leave It with me' and I told him I could complain about that. Not that I would have done but he agreed, It was a slip on his part.

Nothing wrong with standards.

Bruv · Post by **Bruv** » Thu Oct 23, 2014 8:42 am

Inquire Enquire

Nothing wrong with standards........indeed.

FourPart · Post by **FourPart** » Thu Oct 23, 2014 9:52 am

Bruv;1466694 wrote: Inquire Enquire

Nothing wrong with standards........indeed.
I actually found other link on that page even more interesting:

What is the origin of the phrase ‘the bee’s knees’? - Future Perfect

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Thu Oct 23, 2014 9:57 am

Bruv;1466694 wrote: Inquire Enquire

Nothing wrong with standards........indeed.

Well done... give yourself a lollipop

tude dog · Post by **tude dog** » Thu Oct 23, 2014 11:32 am

I remember the first time I drove east of the Mississippi and stopped at to buy food, coffee or what ever and the counter lady addressed me as "Hon". Other times it might be "honey" or other familiar terms.

Well, if I took offence I would be in terrible straights. Three years I drove below the Mason-Dixie line.

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Wed Oct 29, 2014 10:53 am

AnneBoleyn;1466689 wrote: I really get pissed off when some middle-aged black lady who is usually some old white broad's aide calls me 'momma'. I say quite strongly, 'I'm NOT your momma.' It only happened twice, about 2-3 years ago & has never happened since, thank goodness, but it had happened 2 weeks in a row & I thought it was becoming a trend.

The one that really gets me is when someone (almost invariably a coloured man, be it afro-Caribbean or Asian) calls me "boss". I am not a slave owner and none of my forefathers were either, neither do I employ them.

Having worked with many of our antipodean cousins one gets used to being called "mate" and living in the East Midlands one cannot help but be called "me duck" but "boss" gets to me.

Post by **LarsMac** » Wed Oct 29, 2014 11:07 am

There is a diner nearby that the wife and I frequent.

One of the waitresses is always using those sorts of terms, "Hon","Sweetheart","Sugar","Dear"

We finally overheard her talking to another waitress, one day. She was telling the waitress about her old job. She spent 20 years working in a nursing home.

That explained it.