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<r><EMAIL email="pantsonfire321@aol.com">pantsonfire321@aol.com</EMAIL> wrote: I think this is just a stab at getting everyones attention - if you really were about to do anything to yourself you really wouldn't be telling us all . Pathetic . 
 
 
Wow I hope you're kidding. If not (and ...

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<t>cars wrote: Maybe he needs his catholic as* to be married to rid the guilt, would you consider marrying him? :-2 And live happily ever after! :rolleyes: 
 
 
Man, story of my life!! I'm waiting for a proposal....been waiting over 3 years! ugh! :-5 
 
Not to mention, we live ...

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<r>Well I'm still in my 20's so I'd hope I haven't lost any drive! Haha, however, my 25 year-old boyfriend of 3 years was a virgin when we met and has never been overly into it....he likes it and will do it often, but I don't get the feeling that he needs it. Maybe it's that nasty catholic guilt ...

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I chew on my fingers when I'm nervous...my cuticles look like I put my hand down the garbage disposal!

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<t>Furthermore, it's been almost 3 weeks since I talked to her. She hardly ever calls, we never see each other, and she's been all but invisible since her fiance came to the states. I understand that they want some alone time after being separated for so long...but what happened to friends coming ...

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<t>Well...I'm her ONLY bridesmaid, so that might be tricky. I think I'll do the wedding thing and then phase myself out gradually. It shouldn't be hard considering we rarely communicate right now. Besides, she wants to move to Chile eventually so I probably will lose touch with her after that ...

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<t>I've been best friends with Lindsay since junior year of high school. I've gotten to know her distinct personality since then, and can say that we are almost polar opposites. She used to drive me to school every day, and would consistently make me late. Anyone who knows me, knows that I am for ...

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<t>Thank you all, I'm thankful for the feedback! 
 
I have definitely learned from my mistake. I've put my hand on the stove and I never want to put it there again. Chris is the best thing that ever happened to me, and I can't let a misunderstanding and personal weakness ruin that. 
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<t>Hmmm sounds like some real drama going on there. You are exactly like you said, stuck in the middle. However, there's no reason for you to be involved in any way. You can be a friend to both parties by remaining friendly and being supportive to each of them. I'm sure you have some opinions about ...

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<r>Hello everyone. I know this post was from forever ago, and I doubt many, if any of you will remember it. However, just in case, I thought I'd put in an update. I hadn't mentioned in the previous posts that during this incident when I wrote "Torn," that I had been put on a medication used to treat ...

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<t>lady cop wrote: i am sorry to be harsh...but this is pathetic. 8 months (that we know about) and same crap. you're a drama queen and he's not interested. i am only saying what others are thinking. why do you keep this up? attention? 
 
 
Okay, I won't post anymore. I don't consider ...

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<t>I do have a conscience, but everyone I have talked to says that it would only destroy him, and that as long as it's not still going on or anything, that I should never tell him. One of those things you just live and learn I guess. Someone else said that it would be incredibly selfish to tell him ...

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PS. On the off-chance that things get better and work out with my bf, should I ever tell him?

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<t>OpenMind wrote: KittyLovingBlond. I agree with the others. You should give him up. 
 
But I also think you need to look at yourself. Excuse me for being so bold, but you don't seem to have a lot of self-esteem. You don't seem to have a lot of self-confidence. 
 
Before you ...

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Thank you everyone - I think you're right. I just feel like I put so much of myself into the relationship...if I end it, I lose everything. I guess I'm already lost.

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<t>I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. We have been great until the past 6 months. We have been arguing a lot and I have been very unhappy. I feel like I take everything he says very personally, whether he means it that way or not. He is a man of few words...so maybe anything he says ...

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<t>Galbally wrote: Guys are complex just like girls, so you should just do your best to understand aspects that you dont understand, just as he should, and if its a real problem then try and work it out, if possible. But if he ever really hits you (not just a little temper slap now (which I still ...

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I would like my boyfriend of 3 years to realize that he has been neglecting me and do something really sweet to bring us back together...that's all.

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<t>lady cop wrote: this guy does not have the time, desire or interest. you are not his priority. and you are not going to change him. sorry to be blunt, but if YOU read your post dispassionately what would you really think? ..."ain't no mountain high enough" when a man really WANTS to be with a ...

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<t>SnoozeControl wrote: Warning, warning! 
 
Seriously, his concern for mommy being upset is touching, but a big fat warning sign for you. 
 
I don't think its a guy thing, I think its because he's immature. Put yourself in his position. What would cause you to act that way? I bet ...

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<t>SOJOURNER wrote: Basically the only person you can change is yourself. The relationship is what it is. Do you love him enough to accept him as he is? Cause no matter how he might try to be different for you, he is what he is........ No changing that in any big way. 
 
There are talkers ...

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<t>lady cop wrote: this guy does not have the time, desire or interest. you are not his priority. and you are not going to change him. sorry to be blunt, but if YOU read your post dispassionately what would you really think? ..."ain't no mountain high enough" when a man really WANTS to be with a ...

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<t>LilacDragon wrote: Ummmm, find a new guy. While I am sure this one is great, it doesn't sound to me like he is aware of you and your needs. You shouldn't have to beg for communication and affection. Somewhere out there is a guy who is willing to talk and hold your hand. 
 
 
Thank ...

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<t>valerie wrote: Well, at the risk of sounding harsh, whether it's a "guy thing" or not, I say 
 
cut your losses and get out of this relationship. 
 
 
 
Oprah had on an author recently, Greg Behrendt, who co-authored a 
 
book called He's Just Not That Into ...

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<r>When I talk to my friends or family about my relationship, especially things that I am upset about, a common phrase comes up: "oh that's just a guy thing, they are all like that." I understand that I have a lot to learn about men, because despite their "simplicity," I am completely baffled ...

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<t>I couldn't agree with you more. Children nowadays are free to do whatever they want, whenever they want with no consequences. Whoever decided that children should not be spanked has another thing coming. Most people I know were spanked when they were children- they weren't bruised or broken, just ...

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<t>gmc wrote: It is a male female thing, women react by talking about things men don't they just decide how to deal with it and get on. 
 
For instance ask the average bloke how he gets on at work and you'll get fine, O.K. and that's it, ask a woman and she'll tell you. 
 
Same with ...

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<t>Yes I've been told the engineer types are all analytical and logical, and have a hard time understanding anything that's not 100% rational. 
 
I talked to him last night and he said that he has very little patience for people complaining about things- he said there are so many other ...

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<r>devist8me wrote: The link below is to a book by John Gray, "Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus". Like most books along these lines, its just this authors opinion about how things are but it really helped me. I suggest it to any friend who complains about things like this, your story rings a ...

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<t>weeder wrote: Very very frightening... especially the lack of sympathy part. Signal of narcissicim 
 
to me.. This, unfortunately , just might not be the one your looking for. Be careful. 
 
 
Thank you for your response Weeder, I hope you are not right...I'll keep everyone ...

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<t>Thank you for your response Babyrider, you also have a great deal of insight in this issue. 
 
First, I want to address my opening paragraph- especially where I mentioned that he buys me jewelry to show that he loves me- I said that only to emphasize that I rarely see it in any other form ...

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<t>Thank you for your response, I really appreciate the insight. 
 
I think you may be right- he is generally "cool" emotionally, and rarely gets upset, anxious, or excited. 
 
The problem is that the phone is really all we have in between visits, and if we talk like dry crackers it ...

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<r>Some Background: 
 
I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years, in which time I have fallen completely in love with him in many ways. He is the most positive person I know, and rarely complains about anything. He is extremely intelligent, has a fantastic career as a mechanical ...

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<t>Suresh Gupta wrote: Yes, that is the beauty of love. It manifests in many forms in different situations. It gives you strength. It gives an opportunity to other people to uncover and discover themselves. Love is God and God is Love. 
 
 
Suresh...is that a popular name, or are you ...

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<r>JERSEYPEPPER wrote: IT SOUNDS TO ME THAT YOU REALLY LOVE HIM AND WANT TO WORK THIS OUT SO MY ADVICE WOULD BE TO TALK ABOUT IT WITH HIM, BECAUSE COMMUNICATION IS #1 IN RELATIONSHIPS. THEN YOU WILL FIGURE OUT EXACTLY WHAT TURNS YOU BOTH ON... 
 
HOPE IT HELPS 
 
GOOD LUCK 
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<r>A Karenina wrote: sohchatoa, what a wonderful response! <E>:)</E> 
 
 
 
I can't add much to that except to point out that there are many times we start out feeling that we're not in the mood, but with some tenderness and gentle attention we can change that. Exercising ...

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<r>A Karenina wrote: Thank you, Paula. <E>:)</E> I'm not sure if it is accepted in the Garden, either. Hopefully it hasn't offended anyone. 
 
I think details are highly private, but I don't mind discussing the emotions that lie behind it all. 
 
 
I hope the thread has not ...

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<r>sohcahtoa wrote: Kitty, it sounds as though you're just stuck in a rut. This happens and is something that can be dealt with. 
 
From your post, it seems that the lowered-libido side effect of your birth control meds are at least partly to blame. Is there any way you could go on a lower ...

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<r>>>^..^ Kitty if your beau has an appetite for role playing and fantasy.. it will continue to develope...and if he bores of what he has already tried he will create more scenarios. 
 
 
 
I have a girlfriend who had a similar situation.. her man was a little bit kinky when they ...

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Thanks for the spelling correction, I wrote it very late at night.

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<t>I have been in a comitted relationship for about 2 years now with a wonderful man whom I respect and admire more than he will ever know. He is everything I want in a partner, and what I look for in a friend... the only issue I have is with the bedroom. When we met, he was a virgin- he was 22. I ...

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<r>pattybug52 wrote: sounds like it may be his food-go to petco and ask them-they will recommend something-a specific brand of food that may work better than what he is on. Some cats just don't tolerate reg brand cat food and need like a vet diet type thing till they get older. 
 
 
I ...

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<r>koan wrote: Hard to say what you mean by "stinky problem in the behind" if he looks swollen or walks oddly at all he may need a vet to express (squeeze) the anal sacs of excess fluid. Another sign is the rubbing of his behind against rugs or furniture. Good luck. 
 
 
No he doesn't ...

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<t>I have a new kitty, I got him in July of this year when he was 3-4 months old. He's all black except for a little patch of white on his belly, and quite the rascal! I don't think he ever runs out of energy! His name is Scout, but my sister calls him Babooshka (and told the whole family that's ...

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<r>I have been a cat lover since day one, and got my own cat for the first time when I was 10. He was my best friend and a wonderful pet- someone had abandoned he and his brother alongside the road in southern PA in the dead of winter. 
 
(I still have trouble understanding why people do ...

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<r>koan wrote: I was just thinking today about expanding the issue to include other matters such as weight obsession when I passed a billboard by Dove. They have started a "Campaign for real beauty" that includes a forum for women to discuss the issues of beauty with each other, a Self-esteem Fund ...

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<r>KlatunIckto wrote: Would be nice wouldnt it Ms Kitty. 
 
I myself have traveled a good deal,and throughout my travels have looked for Ms Right,and either we just barely missed one another over all these years and miles,as well as all my friends looking for me also such,or she doesnt ...

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<r>If we are talking about the media's influence on women's self-image, I would think that makeup is the least of our worries. Obesity in children and teens is rising exponentially, while the industry (entertainment/media) maintains it's unattainable standards of body size. I have yet to meet a ...

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<r>I agree that you need to be a friend before you can find one, but even then it's hard to do. I have all but given up on friends in the past few years because it's so difficult to find someone who is willing to put time and effort into a long-term friendship. I have "friends" who come and go, and ...

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