Staying Leaving?

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 9:38 am

What gives with those posters that say "I am leaving FG" and then turn around and say "I am staying", and then others chime in and say "Please don't leave". Do they need attention? Are they insecure? I left for over a year sometime back and never felt it necessary to announce it. I like FG and enjoy the repartee with the posters, but it ain't my life or security blanket.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 9:44 am

Lon;1035351 wrote: What gives with those posters that say "I am leaving FG" and then turn around and say "I am staying", and then others chime in and say "Please don't leave". Do they need attention? Are they insecure? I left for over a year sometime back and never felt it necessary to announce it. I like FG and enjoy the repartee with the posters, but it ain't my life or security blanket.

I wonder the same thing, its got to be a huge attention getter they need......then all of the 'oh no don't go, we love you crap':rolleyes:

...and yup your right, they're back!

its only a forum, its not real life ........perhaps they are living in a fantasy world!:yh_wink

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 9:45 am

Lon;1035351 wrote: What gives with those posters that say "I am leaving FG" and then turn around and say "I am staying", and then others chime in and say "Please don't leave". Do they need attention? Are they insecure? I left for over a year sometime back and never felt it necessary to announce it. I like FG and enjoy the repartee with the posters, but it ain't my life or security blanket.

For some it is Lon, FG or similar forums may be their only chance of talking to someone that day due to a disibility or mental/health problems.

I have some friends off FG and off other forums that I speak to on the phone, we have a friendship beyond posts and If one of those friends wasnt going to be around for a while, id appreciate a heads up but it can be done privately.

What gets me is when they say their going and then dont lol...Jeeez suck in all the sympathy and pull at peoples heart strings and then dont go anywhere??? At least bugger off for a week or so lol...

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 9:49 am

Lon;1035351 wrote: What gives with those posters that say "I am leaving FG" and then turn around and say "I am staying", and then others chime in and say "Please don't leave". Do they need attention? Are they insecure? I left for over a year sometime back and never felt it necessary to announce it. I like FG and enjoy the repartee with the posters, but it ain't my life or security blanket.
You left? :-2

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 9:51 am

Ian;1035369 wrote: That's life Lon :-6 it's like sucking your mothers nipple.. you always end up with a 20 cigarette a day habit.. life eh........

:-3:-3:-3 sucking nipples makes you have a smoking habit??

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 9:53 am

Ian;1035369 wrote: That's life Lon :-6 it's like sucking your mothers nipple.. you always end up with a 20 cigarette a day habit.. life eh........

:yh_rotfl

see now, ya gotta stay here!:-4

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 10:19 am

Odie;1035358 wrote: I wonder the same thing, its got to be a huge attention getter they need......then all of the 'oh no don't go, we love you crap':rolleyes:

...and yup your right, they're back!

its only a forum, its not real life ........perhaps they are living in a fantasy

world!:yh_wink

What do you mean, it's not real life???:wah::wah::wah:

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 10:20 am

Lon;1035351 wrote: What gives with those posters that say "I am leaving FG" and then turn around and say "I am staying", and then others chime in and say "Please don't leave". Do they need attention? Are they insecure? I left for over a year sometime back and never felt it necessary to announce it. I like FG and enjoy the repartee with the posters, but it ain't my life or security blanket.

You came back because you realized, I forced you to face the horrible twisted maniacal thing that haunts you. Commonly known and feared throughout modern civilization as the dreaded

KIWI SYNDROME

With love, Nomad :-4

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 10:24 am

That's it... I'm leaving now..... Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee :wah:

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 10:25 am

Accountable;1035368 wrote: You left? :-2

I'm crushed-------you never noticed?:-1

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 10:27 am

Ian;1035369 wrote: That's life Lon :-6 it's like sucking your mothers nipple.. you always end up with a 20 cigarette a day habit.. life eh........

Yeah, but sucking mum's nipple as an adult doesn't cut it.

Helen · Post by **Helen** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 10:49 am

there are SOME on here who have forged genuin friendships, as i have, and if they just dissappeared without trace, i would be worried about them.

as chezz said, there are people on here that dont get out much and these forums are a way of having a bit of company and support when they need it.

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 10:55 am

Helen;1035455 wrote: there are SOME on here who have forged genuin friendships, as i have, and if they just dissappeared without trace, i would be worried about them.

as chezz said, there are people on here that dont get out much and these forums are a way of having a bit of company and support when they need it.

Well, I too have some genuine friendships that I have had for many years, but I communicate with them by email, not in a public forum. People that feel the need to communicate private feelings, fears and emotions with friends on a public forum are a different breed of cat and apparently have different needs.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 11:04 am

Lon;1035465 wrote: Well, I too have some genuine friendships that I have had for many years, but I communicate with them by email, not in a public forum. People that feel the need to communicate private feelings, fears and emotions with friends on a public forum are a different breed of cat and apparently have different needs.

Not better or worse.

Just different choices and styles.

Is that what you meant ?

Post by **spot** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 11:13 am

Chezzie;1035360 wrote: What gets me is when they say their going and then dont lol...Jeeez suck in all the sympathy and pull at peoples heart strings and then dont go anywhere??? At least bugger off for a week or so lol...

Joseph Stalin understood these things. "I'm thinking of resigning my position as Party Chairman" was one of his better lines. You were damned if you said enjoy your retirement and damned if you questioned his judgement.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 11:15 am

spot;1035494 wrote: Joseph Stalin understood these things. "I'm thinking of resigning my position as Party Chairman" was one of his better lines. You were damned if you said enjoy your retirement and damned if you questioned his judgement.

Stalin, its always Stalin with you.

Stalin this Stalin that.

What about a little Mussolini once in awhile ?

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 11:17 am

Nomad;1035480 wrote: Not better or worse.

Just different choices and styles.

Is that what you meant ?

Not really, I am thinking that perhaps these folks seek a consensus opinion, which they will get on a forum, as opposed to communicating with one individual via email. But then, I'm no psychologist.

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 11:19 am

Nomad;1035497 wrote: Stalin, its always Stalin with you.

Stalin this Stalin that.

What about a little Mussolini once in awhile ?

Or Patrice Lamumba.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 11:37 am

Lon;1035503 wrote: Or Patrice Lamumba.

Of course.

That goes without sayng.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 12:08 pm

No-body asked me to stay when i said i was going..... so i'm really really going now....... Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee:wah:

TheNewDG · Post by **TheNewDG** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 12:17 pm

Ok, people:

Dont let the door hit ya

Where the good Lord split ya!

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 12:26 pm

Like a rock star's lingering "farewell" tour, or a company's "going out of business" sale that lasts until the business reopens again. A bid for attention.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 12:36 pm

Lon;1035499 wrote: Not really, I am thinking that perhaps these folks seek a consensus opinion, which they will get on a forum, as opposed to communicating with one individual via email. But then, I'm no psychologist.

but even communicating via emails to some, also comes up on an open board as well.........nasty eh?

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 12:37 pm

oscar;1035554 wrote: No-body asked me to stay when i said i was going..... so i'm really really going now....... Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee:wah:

oscar, no no you can't go, I am not done with you yet!:wah:

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 1:36 pm

fuzzy butt;1035561 wrote: OI!!! Oscar come back ere' You can't leave ...................I havent finished mistreating you yet!!!!!:wah::wah:

No, i'm really really really really really going now.............. Byeeeeeeeeeee:driving:

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 1:37 pm

Did anyone miss me?????:wah::wah::wah::wah:

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 2:01 pm

I put a post up saying I was leaving - not because I wanted people to beg me to stay or tell me how much they loved me :wah:

I made some great friends here at FG. We shared tears, laughter and fun .. I did not want to leave without saying goodbye and thank you. Simple as that.

I needed a break - FG became too much in my life. I think that I needed a long break to break the FG addiction - which has worked for me as I can now visit my friends here without it 'getting too much'. Some may or may not understand this but it worked for me.

By the way..sorry to those who breathed a sigh of relief when I posted my 'I'm off thread' .... cos I'm back!!!!!!! :wah:

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 3:20 pm

Here ya go................ Ms. Tracy Chapman says it best. Turn up your speakers.

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 3:24 pm

along-for-the-ride;1035762 wrote: Here ya go................ Ms. Tracy Chapman says it best. Turn up your speakers.

wow thanks AFTR, I love Tracy Chapman:-4

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 3:24 pm

I'm leaving!

everyone says thank god!:wah:

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 4:35 pm

Chezzie;1035766 wrote: wow thanks AFTR, I love Tracy Chapman:-4

I've got this song on my I-pod. Even my 18 yr old loves this song.

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 4:37 pm

qsducks;1035819 wrote: I've got this song on my I-pod. Even my 18 yr old loves this song.

I used to do a mean redition of Fast Car after a few beers Ducky:wah::wah::wah:

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 4:40 pm

Chezzie;1035822 wrote: I used to do a mean redition of Fast Car after a few beers Ducky:wah::wah::wah:

Really? And I thought you were into Proud Mary...better line you up for a dance with my dad on the floor.:wah:

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 4:41 pm

qsducks;1035825 wrote: Really? And I thought you were into Proud Mary...better line you up for a dance with my dad on the floor.:wah:

oh im versatile babey:D:guitarist:guitarist

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 4:45 pm

Chezzie;1035826 wrote: oh im versatile babey:D:guitarist:guitarist

Invite is in the mail for the 27th of November. You'd fit right in on my fam's side. My sister has friends in the UK and my parents have been there several times. They love it.

The Rob · Post by **The Rob** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 4:45 pm

I'm reminded of that country tune, "How Can I Miss You If You Won't Go Away?".

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 6:58 pm

The Rob;1035832 wrote: I'm reminded of that country tune, "How Can I Miss You If You Won't Go Away?".

:yh_rotfl

BTS · Post by **BTS** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 9:18 pm

Jester;1035397 wrote: As one who left for a while then returned, its difficult to explain, for me personally I went from an uncaring slob here to really careing about people here as if they were my own troopers, then realized there are few folks there (not those here now) at the time I had my greatest conflict that just liked to create conflict period. For a whiel for me it sucked to be here.

But I learned, sad to say that caring less is better, which I should say being more careful about only caring for those 'real' ones is better. Took me a few years to learn that not everybody who shows up to a forum is here to be genuine, it takes a while to pick out the genuine ones and those are the ones I care for.

If you let the ones that play games into your life yer gonna get burned, so I understand for some its easier to leave than stay and take crap behind the scenes when every post you make gets three negative PM's in your inbox...

Yippers Jester you hit the nail on the ol head as they say.

One who left that was a hoot and I miss dearly is "John Ate Pies"

Has anyone head how he is ?

Quite a guy and one of the MOST genuine people I ever met in a forum.

wildhorses · Post by **wildhorses** » Sun Oct 26, 2008 9:41 pm

oscar;1035554 wrote: No-body asked me to stay when i said i was going..... so i'm really really going now....... Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee:wah:

Oh No!!!! Don't go oscar....please don't go :-1

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Mon Oct 27, 2008 8:01 am

wildhorses;1036006 wrote: Oh No!!!! Don't go oscar....please don't go :-1

I left last night and went to bed. Did anybody miss me?:wah:

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Mon Oct 27, 2008 8:19 am

I don't get the dramatic ones but I'd like to know if someone was really leaving rather than just disappearing.

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Mon Oct 27, 2008 8:21 am

sunny104;1036443 wrote: I don't get the dramatic ones but I'd like to know if someone was really leaving rather than just disappearing.

I guess that means your staying?:wah: You better as I always have to send you funny em's.:wah:

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Mon Oct 27, 2008 8:26 am

qsducks;1036446 wrote: I guess that means your staying?:wah: You better as I always have to send you funny em's.:wah:

yes, Lon would miss me too much otherwise!