Godiva Girl wrote: I just want to say thanks to everyone who put in a supportive post for me last night. You guys are truly a special group. It's not so much that being single that bothers me, it's the comments that people make. The right person will come along when the time is right. And when you think about it, how many people do you know that are truly happy with their partner or in their marriage. I would rather have 10 or 20 years of wonderful, than 30 or 40 years of unhappiness with someone.
My daughter is very beautiful, and over-weight. If her weight ever bothered her, then I would hope that she takes steps to slowly, healthfully change it - as I would hope she would work to change any aspect of herself that she isn't proud of. That's entirely up to her. She's quite beautiful inside and out as she is. She also lives in Chicago, btw.
In some ways this has hurt her very badly as people can be so cruel. In other ways it has taught her to be strong and to accept herself. The same for you.

So in many ways, the two of you have a step up on lots of other people, who really can't or don't accept themselves.
I don't know about you, but I'm going to try to eHarmony thing. I like the idea of only dating those who are potential husband material, that I can pick and choose without emotional commitment. That sounds terrible! What I mean is that I'd prefer to know their values, goals, lifestyle, personality, needs, and wants BEFORE I get emotionally attached. That way, I'm not taking a person who has habits I just can't live with, and vice-versa.
The world is very big. It's silly to think there isn't a wonderful man out there who would love us for us, with all of our quirks, talents, and shortcomings. I think we should be smart about how we "shop" for this man.
You'er a sweet one, Godiva Girl. Don't let anyone tell you different.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.
Aristotle