True or False?

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 8:23 am

So is the following statement true or false?

The only person who can make you happy is yourself.

I hear this all the time, but is it true?

K.Snyder · Post by **K.Snyder** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 8:24 am

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 8:25 am

yes, you have to learn to be happy with yourself. then you can share with others.

Lulu2 · Post by **Lulu2** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 8:26 am

I vote true...if you're not "open" to happiness, it's not going to happen.

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 8:26 am

Great question, Sher

I think, ultimately, the answer is yes.

It goes back to my old theory: Expectations.

If your expectations of friends, romantic relationships, jobs, and life in general are set at a realistic level, then you can hope to reach them.

And if you *do* reach them, you can *choose* to be happy.

Hey, what do I know? But it works for me :-6

zinkyusa · Post by **zinkyusa** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 8:27 am

Happiness is just a by product for me (of getting out of my own way)..:-6

Lulu2 · Post by **Lulu2** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 8:28 am

Hamster...you have to be "open" to that. What about flowers from George Bush? Would THAT make you happy?

(Didn't think so.)

zinkyusa · Post by **zinkyusa** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 8:30 am

Lulu2 wrote: Hamster...you have to be "open" to that. What about flowers from George Bush? Would THAT make you happy?

(Didn't think so.)

ouch, below the belt Lu:wah:

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 8:30 am

Hamster wrote: But Guppy..If somebody bought you some flowers (for example) would that make you happy? And wouldn't it technically be that someone else made you happy?

it probably meant i made them happy....:sneaky:

you have to be happy within, to be able to really accept and give happiness without..........

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 8:30 am

Hamster wrote: But Guppy..If somebody bought you some flowers (for example) would that make you happy? And wouldn't it technically be that someone else made you happy?

Well, kind of . . .

Let's say someone gave you some hand-picked daisies. Half of them were dying.

You could think, " These flowers suck! Why couldn't you you get me a better arrangment?"

Or, you could think, " How nice of you to think of me!"

It's being happy with the thought and not the object. It's *choosing* to see it as a lovely thought, not as crummy flowers.

I'm not even sure that makes sense

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 8:31 am

Wow thanks all for your quick responses.

I think it's true also, but it's a journy to figure out what it takes to make you happy with yourself. I guess it could go along with Pinky's thread on do you have to like yourself.

Cher, I like your response. But is it just setting realistic expectations in life that makes one happy. Or do think there are other factors within oneself?

Shweet tatersalad · Post by **Shweet tatersalad** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 8:31 am

This would be "true"

But if someone finds out,they will ruin it for you because they suck.

weber · Post by **weber** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 8:32 am

Yes> True> I mean a happy person. Other people can bring me happiness for a period of time. But to be a happy person comes from me inside.

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 8:36 am

I think it's true, after I hit a real low a few years ago nothing could make me happy, despite everyone trying to make me feel better nothing worked until I felt at a better place in my heart

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 8:36 am

Sheryl wrote: Cher, I like your response. But is it just setting realistic expectations in life that makes one happy. Or do think there are other factors within oneself?

Oh I'm sure it's more complicated than that!

I look at it as a journey, not a destination. Plus it is ever-changing. As you get older (and hopefully wiser:) ), what makes you happy is probably *not* what made you happy five years ago.

Here is an example for me: When my Mom passed away three years ago, it was sudden and unexpected. I was angry and felt 'cheated'.

But I just *knew*, knowing myself, that I would get to the point where I would feel *so lucky* to have HAD such a wonderful Mom. I'm so grateful for the loving memories I have of my time with her.

Even though I no longer 'have' her (which is not a happy thought), I *choose* to feel so blessed to have had the opportunity to share what time I did have with her.

I feel like one of the lucky ones in life :-6

woppy71 · Post by **woppy71** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 8:39 am

Lulu2 wrote: I vote true...if you're not "open" to happiness, it's not going to happen.

yep, have to agree.

K.Snyder · Post by **K.Snyder** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:19 am

So those who say yes are saying that "because somone is not happy with themselves others cannot make them happy"?

I disagree.

weber · Post by **weber** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 9:25 am

K.Snyder wrote: So those who say yes are saying that "because somone is not happy with themselves others cannot make them happy"?

I disagree.

K. Love

You could make me happy but when you were gone, so would the happy be gone. To be a happy person, I must be happy myself inside. Then you make me happier and when you are gone I am still happy but not that you are gone. ummmm if that is not clear, blame the mud not me.

K.Snyder · Post by **K.Snyder** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 10:16 am

weber wrote: K. Love

You could make me happy but when you were gone, so would the happy be gone. To be a happy person, I must be happy myself inside. Then you make me happier and when you are gone I am still happy but not that you are gone. ummmm if that is not clear, blame the mud not me.

I shouldn't be the one to have to remind you of how happy you should be, but if so is the case by misperceived reality, I cannot take credit for a smile that evolves from minimal effort as a result from ones own beauty. :yh_flower

weber · Post by **weber** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 11:09 am

4 U K.:-6

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cars · Post by **cars** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 12:50 pm

Before answering T or F, sorry I can't kick the the ol engineer mentality. "Define Happy"!:p :wah: :rolleyes: