Suggestions, please?

theia · Post by **theia** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 11:21 am

I just felt so angry at being finally dumped last week by the elderly man in Omaha, that I took the only thing he ever gave me (a musty, secondhand book) and tore it into shreds. This took a lot of doing (and anger) because I really treasure books. I texted my 17 year old granddaughter to tell her and she texted back, "U legend! i love you loadzxxx" My family is so relieved that he is finally out of my life, and that I can begin to rebuild my battered self esteem and confidence.

But the bits now lie on the lounge floor. What do I do with them? I can't burn them because it's raining outside but I want to dispose of them in such a way that it shows my disdain for someone who, for nearly two years, treated me with utter contempt, callousness and total dishonesty.

I need to make a ritual of it, and vow that I shall never again in my life allow myself to be treated that way again. So, what can I do with the remains of the book?

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 11:23 am

Something final...like burning it, or burying it...thus signifying the end of it all.

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 11:30 am

Burn the pieces in your sink or bathtub, but in small bits so you don't catch anything else on fire. Then just wash the ashes down your drain.

AussiePam · Post by **AussiePam** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 11:43 am

I think it really should involve fire, Theia!!! But otherwise, maybe drown the pieces. Toss them slowly into a river or into the ocean. Nar though - fire is always best. And write the name of the misbegotten sorry excuse for a human being on a piece of paper, with his photo if you still have that, and burn them too. As the flames rise, dance and sing, preferably with a glass of wine in your hand. You rock, Girlfriend.

Shweet tatersalad · Post by **Shweet tatersalad** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 11:46 am

Diuretic;464980 wrote: Stick 'em in an envelope and post them to him? :-3

There you go^^^^^^^ You seem too have a attachment too the materialistic value of this item.You can send too where it came from and move on thus relieving yourself of any further obligation too that part of your life.

theia · Post by **theia** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 11:46 am

AussiePam;464991 wrote: I think it really should involve fire, Theia!!! But otherwise, maybe drown the pieces. Toss them slowly into a river or into the ocean. Nar though - fire is always best. And write the name of the misbegotten sorry excuse for a human being on a piece of paper, with his photo if you still have that, and burn them too. As the flames rise, dance and sing, preferably with a glass of wine in your hand. You rock, Girlfriend.

Like it Pammie :-6

pantsonfire321@aol.com · Mon Nov 20, 2006 11:48 am

theia;464962 wrote: I just felt so angry at being finally dumped last week by the elderly man in Omaha, that I took the only thing he ever gave me (a musty, secondhand book) and tore it into shreds. This took a lot of doing (and anger) because I really treasure books. I texted my 17 year old granddaughter to tell her and she texted back, "U legend! i love you loadzxxx" My family is so relieved that he is finally out of my life, and that I can begin to rebuild my battered self esteem and confidence.

But the bits now lie on the lounge floor. What do I do with them? I can't burn them because it's raining outside but I want to dispose of them in such a way that it shows my disdain for someone who, for nearly two years, treated me with utter contempt, callousness and total dishonesty.

I need to make a ritual of it, and vow that I shall never again in my life allow myself to be treated that way again. So, what can I do with the remains of the book?

This might be a silly idea but what about a time capsule . Take an old tin . Write down how you are feeling about this time in your life and along with some of the pages bury them both in the garden and forget about them .....kind of like burying all the bad luck with the year.......and looking forward to a new one ..or you could take the book to the recycling bank . Whatever you do good luck and a big :yh_hugs from me .

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 11:52 am

good for you!! :yh_hugs

I'd burn it, to me it would feel permanently finished then.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 12:08 pm

theia;464962 wrote: I just felt so angry at being finally dumped last week by the elderly man in Omaha, that I took the only thing he ever gave me (a musty, secondhand book) and tore it into shreds. This took a lot of doing (and anger) because I really treasure books. I texted my 17 year old granddaughter to tell her and she texted back, "U legend! i love you loadzxxx" My family is so relieved that he is finally out of my life, and that I can begin to rebuild my battered self esteem and confidence.

But the bits now lie on the lounge floor. What do I do with them? I can't burn them because it's raining outside but I want to dispose of them in such a way that it shows my disdain for someone who, for nearly two years, treated me with utter contempt, callousness and total dishonesty.

I need to make a ritual of it, and vow that I shall never again in my life allow myself to be treated that way again. So, what can I do with the remains of the book?

Burial at sea... flush em

Post by **Betty Boop** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 12:19 pm

Come down to my place, we'll head to Cape Cornwall and chuck him off the cliffs!

:yh_hugs :-4

koan · Post by **koan** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 12:30 pm

Fire transforms the energy so if you do that then decide what you want it to transform into.

Don't bury it!!!

Mailing it is also a good method. You can address it with a word that represents him

and no address and it works just as well - ends up in the dead letter office. The idea is to get it away from you and out of your life. For goodness' sake don't put a return address on the envelope if you do this.

glad you're dealing with it positively! :-6

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 1:59 pm

I like Betty's idea, feed the pieces to the seagulls.................................:-6

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 2:12 pm

Shred the pages....mail half of it back to him and keep the other half to do with what you want....burn it, chuck it...what ever.

Now I personally wouldn't do either....it makes it (him) too important...I'd just chuck in the trash can like any other rubbish and forget it.

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 2:13 pm

I think you should eat some of the pieces.... llike Hannibal Lector. As a reminder of the incredible amount of suffering this self serving, cruel, parasite put you through. ( Just two or three little pieces) Then give the rest to a neighbor who has a big dog. The neighbor should use the paper to clen up the dogs crap. With Love, Weeder. Your friends in the US are glad your through with him also.

theia · Post by **theia** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 2:18 pm

Thanks everyone...all food for thought

My son in law just suggested sending the bits back to him (after he'd trodden all over them!) but I suppose there's a part of me that doesn't want him to know I'm giving him a second thought (he won't read this because he doesn't "do" forums).

Betty, Cape Cornwall is so, so beautiful that I think I would rather us go down there for a positive, self affirming experience...you know, renewal and all that sort of stuff. Shall we arrange to do that?

I like the idea of just mailing it, Koan. Or, as you say, deciding what I want to transform it into before burning...that feels really positive, because, if I'm honest, he taught me a lot of things about the way I see myself and that's an invaluable, if painful, lesson. (Oh, and thank you for the Tarot reading...it was really helpful, as was Pinky's a few months ago).

koan · Post by **koan** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 2:18 pm

weeder;465108 wrote: I think you should eat some of the pieces.... like Hannibal Lector.

Ask spot. I just burst out into uncontrollable laughter.

Thanks, weeder !

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 2:18 pm

Are the pieces too small to wipe your bum with? :-3

theia · Post by **theia** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 2:23 pm

weeder;465108 wrote: I think you should eat some of the pieces.... llike Hannibal Lector. As a reminder of the incredible amount of suffering this self serving, cruel, parasite put you through. ( Just two or three little pieces) Then give the rest to a neighbor who has a big dog. The neighbor should use the paper to clen up the dogs crap. With Love, Weeder. Your friends in the US are glad your through with him also.

Stop making me laugh, Weeder, my cow tissue graft will fall apart (don't ask!). The problem with eating it is that it was a musty, smelly, old book and I might just vomit. But hey, James and his girlfriend have a dog who regularly rolls in fox pooh...maybe they could use some scrap paper...:sneaky:

Post by **Betty Boop** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 2:25 pm

theia;465110 wrote: Thanks everyone...all food for thought

Betty, Cape Cornwall is so, so beautiful that I think I would rather us go down there for a positive, self affirming experience...you know, renewal and all that sort of stuff. Shall we arrange to do that?

Yes, we can arrange to do that, as long as we can organise that 'swap' amicably

theia · Post by **theia** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 2:26 pm

Uncle Kram;465112 wrote: Are the pieces too small to wipe your bum with? :-3

It was a very thick book, Unc, so the pieces vary in size. But I'm a bit worried about the texture of the paper

theia · Post by **theia** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 2:28 pm

Betty Boop;465118 wrote: Yes, we can arrange to do that, as long as we can organise that 'swap' amicably

"Swap?" Betty? What "swap?"

(People will think we talk cardigans

)

Post by **Betty Boop** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 2:30 pm

theia;465120 wrote: "Swap?" Betty? What "swap?"

(People will think we talk cardigans

)

Speaking of cardi's I'd swap that for it! :wah: :driving:

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 2:31 pm

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!

Well done U legend! i love you loadz too XXX

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 2:41 pm

Make a collage out of and send it back to him......no return address.

And congrats to you for kicking him to the curb. I don't know you....but I know you do deserve better.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 2:43 pm

You could also put some pieces under the doormat............................:wah:

theia · Post by **theia** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 3:07 pm

chonsigirl;465135 wrote: You could also put some pieces under the doormat............................:wah:

Done, Chonsi!! And fortunately, I've got to go and put out the recycling box for collection tomorrow...and fortunately it's very wet outside and I shall have to ensure I wipe my feet when I come back in

AussiePam · Post by **AussiePam** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 3:57 pm

Cow tissue graft?!! Theia !!! GIGGLE.. And absolutely no comment.

I still think it has to be fire.

There was a bloke who harrassed me in the work place for over a year. Patronising put downs type stuff, and he knew zilch about my area too.. I used to get really upset, then one day I realised that this is what he was in fact getting off on. Classical bully syndrome.

So I printed out his web photograph, blacked out his eyes so he couldn't ever see me again, blacked out his mouth so he could never speak to me again, wrote his name on a piece of paper, then selected some neat old ways type thingies.. mistletoe for general magic, oak leaves for wisdom, birch for cleansing, pine for purity, rowen for that little bit of extra punch and a bunch of white sulphur crested cockatoo feathers because they were a pretty colour.

Built a little fire the next full moon. Took off all me clothes, put flowers in my hair, burnt all the bits and pieces while dancing.. and at the same time tossed into the flames all my own negative thoughts, bad wishes, regrets that I hadn't handled things differently, everything negative. Laughed a lot. Drank some wine and finally covered the smouldering ashes with earth and poured the last of the wine into the steaming earth. Then I went and showered to wash away even the smell of the smoke (and the stink of burning feathers) and it really worked. I felt differently about that bloke afterwards. Actually gave him a broad grin recently as I walked on and I must say, he looked not just surprised but quite stunned.

Go Theia.. Burn the negative vibes. They're a double whammy that impacts only on you, not on the bastard who deserves them.

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zinkyusa · Post by **zinkyusa** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 5:27 pm

SnoozeControl;465192 wrote: I think I'd defecate on it but I somehow can't see Theia doing that.

Snoozie, always the practical one..:-4

Rapunzel · Post by **Rapunzel** » Mon Nov 20, 2006 5:43 pm

Package up the bits and sell them on Ebay! People buy Tesco carrier bags on Ebay, someone's bound to buy that if you explain what it is!

Take the money you win and buy as much wine as you can and get royally drunk!

Or you could recycle the book - have it smashed into mush and made into something better! Same as he should be! :rolleyes:

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Tue Nov 21, 2006 4:25 am

Soak them in water and make paper mache. make it into a pinatta, so some kids can have fun whacking the crap out of it.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Tue Nov 21, 2006 4:42 am

SnoozeControl;465403 wrote: I like the papier mache idea, but she should form it into his likeness and then set THAT on fire... after defecating in it.

Not that I'm a psycho or anything.

Seems that all your ideas are crap. :p

theia · Post by **theia** » Tue Nov 21, 2006 4:45 am

SnoozeControl;465403 wrote: I like the papier mache idea, but she should form it into his likeness and then set THAT on fire... after defecating in it.

Not that I'm a psycho or anything.

Oh, I love you, Snooze!! :wah: :wah:

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Nov 21, 2006 5:22 am

Paper maiche, but make it a pinata-so she can get a baseball bat and whack it a few times!

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Tue Nov 21, 2006 5:41 am

SnoozeControl;465403 wrote: I like the papier mache idea, but she should form it into his likeness ...

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Nov 21, 2006 5:44 am

My turn, my turn to hit it!:)

theia · Post by **theia** » Tue Nov 21, 2006 5:47 am

chonsigirl;465441 wrote: My turn, my turn to hit it!:)

Please form an orderly queue...

and be prepared to wait...

I may be here some time :sneaky:

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Tue Nov 21, 2006 5:52 am

theia;465442 wrote: Please form an orderly queue...

and be prepared to wait...

I may be here some time :sneaky:
Hang on! What have you filled it with? I need to know where to stand. :-3

theia · Post by **theia** » Tue Nov 21, 2006 6:02 am

SnoozeControl;465448 wrote: I guess we'll need to fill it with candy!

No, no, no no...it's filled with b***s***

...obviously

Elvira · Post by **Elvira** » Tue Nov 21, 2006 6:15 am

theia;464962 wrote: I just felt so angry at being finally dumped last week by the elderly man in Omaha, that I took the only thing he ever gave me (a musty, secondhand book) and tore it into shreds. This took a lot of doing (and anger) because I really treasure books. I texted my 17 year old granddaughter to tell her and she texted back, "U legend! i love you loadzxxx" My family is so relieved that he is finally out of my life, and that I can begin to rebuild my battered self esteem and confidence.

But the bits now lie on the lounge floor. What do I do with them? I can't burn them because it's raining outside but I want to dispose of them in such a way that it shows my disdain for someone who, for nearly two years, treated me with utter contempt, callousness and total dishonesty.

I need to make a ritual of it, and vow that I shall never again in my life allow myself to be treated that way again. So, what can I do with the remains of the book?

Stick them down the toilet pan and p!ss on them!

Red · Post by **Red** » Tue Nov 21, 2006 6:33 am

Uncle Kram;465112 wrote: Are the pieces too small to wipe your bum with? :-3

:wah:

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Nov 21, 2006 9:21 am

Red;465481 wrote: :wah:

mail pieces to us all here and we can let em all go to the wind and have a world wide party over your new direction

theia · Post by **theia** » Tue Nov 21, 2006 10:27 am

minks;465563 wrote: mail pieces to us all here and we can let em all go to the wind and have a world wide party over your new direction

I really love that idea, Minks...the scattering to the wind has a very positive and alive feel to it. I do have some people's addresses already but if anyone else would like to pm me theirs, I'll enclose some small pieces with a Christmas card.