why are people so nasty to others

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 5:56 am

K4z01;667680 wrote: you're funny spot:)

Don't be silly, he's Spot, he's far too clever to bother with trivial stuff like humour.

spot;667684 wrote: I'm utterly humiliated.

Women!! Oh, the infamy. They've always had it infamy.

See what I mean:sneaky:

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 6:00 am

Imladris;667681 wrote: I sometimes think people get carried away with the anonimity of the internet, it's easy to be someone that you're not in real life. You can be that confident, hard-nosed, bitch (not just confined to women) that perhaps you wish you were. You can have the courage to give that witty, nasty put-down. You also can't see the effect you're having on someone. That funny retort that makes one person laugh can be destructive to another.

I'm no innocent here, today I amended a post because a word that means one thing to me offended someone else with another meaning. I'm glad she picked me up on it because I won't use that word again.

In real life - some people are just plain horrible, the only thing I try to do is not lower myself to their standards without becoming a doormat, hard to do but not impossible.

Good post Immy :-4

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 6:40 am

spot;667602 wrote: I'm a moderator. We're the sheriffs of the Wild West, we have a badge and a six-gun. We walk into the saloon on our own and shoot the bad guy, at which point all the other sheriffs come out of the rooms round the balcony and prime their shotguns with a menacing click. If they all disagree with the shooting then the offender gets on the stage out of town that evening I expect. Nobody's had that happen to them. And being a moderator isn't like that at all, either, I just made it up because it sounded good.

How familiar are you with kayfabe? ForumGarden is a small-scale World Wrestling Entertainment Inc where you get to be a face or a heel by choice, the entire audience are also players and you get clapped or booed, popular or unpopular, in with this clique or that just as it is, all there on the TV every week, if you need a model of how this place works.

So... kayfabe. And here we are breaking the fourth wall, which is another WWE convention. Or maybe we're not, that's partly the fun as well. I'm a face, right? I have the occasional moment where I head-butt a valet or two but mostly I get a big Wooooooo when I walk onstage, I'm as much of a face as FG possesses just at the moment. Guess what I started as? I was the biggest nastiest heel the site ever knew back in my glory days. I even had a month last year where I reverted to it, helped kill two of the site's clique queens and (in true WWE style) came out smelling of roses along with my partners in crime. Man we were bad.

How would I like RedGlitter and Magenta to handle things? I'm not the scriptwriter. Are you a heel? Are you a face? Which is she? What do you want to do? Maybe you'd make a magical tag team if you paired up. This is kayfabe, remember? You've seen her in costume, she's seen you play a few bouts, nobody gets invited round for a meal after the show. It's when that happens that a forum site gets depth. The one thing that always puts me in hoots of laughter, though, is anyone posting "what you see is what you get, I'm no different here than IRL".
:yh_worshp:yh_clap that was great....very entertaining!! And true too...

Imladris;667681 wrote: I sometimes think people get carried away with the anonimity of the internet, it's easy to be someone that you're not in real life. You can be that confident, hard-nosed, bitch (not just confined to women) that perhaps you wish you were. You can have the courage to give that witty, nasty put-down. You also can't see the effect you're having on someone. That funny retort that makes one person laugh can be destructive to another.

I'm no innocent here, today I amended a post because a word that means one thing to me offended someone else with another meaning. I'm glad she picked me up on it because I won't use that word again.

In real life - some people are just plain horrible, the only thing I try to do is not lower myself to their standards without becoming a doormat, hard to do but not impossible.

We are really twins only 2 days apart, took the words out of my keyboard!!

chatter-box · Post by **chatter-box** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 6:59 am

Personally I think it's a power strugle, if you put others down it'll make you look good. So a person who is constantly horrible really has a very low self esteem. It's a theory anyway.

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 7:43 am

We can't love everybody and can't expect to be loved by everybody, however to make threats on the net is ludicrous and dangerous.

For those of you out there battling against other people on the net beware of this.... I read recently potential employers are now going to the net to read up on you... meaning they are doing this weird kind of cyber back ground check. We have our pictures posted and hell who knows what else, and it's not so hard to put 2 and 2 together anymore on the net.

Uttering threads, of wanting revenge, wishing someone was dead, or wanting to kill are a bad thing.

If employers can find this stuff you guys, so can anyone else including authorities. Take it as seriously as you wish.

Sorry that may have been off topic.

Back to the minks cave.

Post by **spot** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 7:48 am

Imladris;667688 wrote: Don't be silly, he's Spot, he's far too clever to bother with trivial stuff like humour.Be kind, Immy, I'm an old man.

See what I mean:sneaky:It was a very old joke, too!

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 7:50 am

spot;667755 wrote: Be kind, Immy, I'm an old man.

It was a very old joke, too!

:wah: ahahahahaha can I pass you your cane oldster?

christina18 · Post by **christina18** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 8:40 am

:)Going back to the question, there are lots of reasons why. I have an example.

Where I work, there are a few people who think they own the place and they can wrap the boss around their fingers. They call all the shots but they're very clever to make him think it was his idea in the first place.

If you have a complaint about how you're being treated, it gets brushed under the carpet. Some people keep in with them because they're scared to lose their jobs. Nobody really likes them but are too afraid to say.

I, personally, am not scared of them but I don't like to make a fuss so I give them the impression that I'm fine with the way things are. I never let them see things bother me but my friends and I chat about them when we're alone.

I haven't got a nasty bone in my body so I smile sweetly and I think that this annoys them more.

Doing impressions of them with my mates helps to let off steam. we have a good ol laugh and they're none the wiser.

If I was to rant and rave at them, it wouldn't get me anywhere and I'd also feel bad about it, so my advice is to grin and bear it and NEVER let them see they're getting the better of you. They're the nasty ones not you, remember that!!:)

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 8:40 am

spot;667755 wrote: Be kind, Immy, I'm an old man.

It was a very old joke, too!

xxxx for you Spot, you know I lurve you.:sneaky:

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 9:03 am

christina18;667808 wrote: :)Going back to the question, there are lots of reasons why. I have an example.

Where I work, there are a few people who think they own the place and they can wrap the boss around their fingers. They call all the shots but they're very clever to make him think it was his idea in the first place.

If you have a complaint about how you're being treated, it gets brushed under the carpet. Some people keep in with them because they're scared to lose their jobs. Nobody really likes them but are too afraid to say.

I, personally, am not scared of them but I don't like to make a fuss so I give them the impression that I'm fine with the way things are. I never let them see things bother me but my friends and I chat about them when we're alone.

I haven't got a nasty bone in my body so I smile sweetly and I think that this annoys them more.

Doing impressions of them with my mates helps to let off steam. we have a good ol laugh and they're none the wiser.

If I was to rant and rave at them, it wouldn't get me anywhere and I'd also feel bad about it, so my advice is to grin and bear it and NEVER let them see they're getting the better of you. They're the nasty ones not you, remember that!!:)

brilliant points Newbie. :yh_worshp:yh_clap you sure you are not from Canada hehehe

Yes I have to agree with you here.

SlipStream · Post by **SlipStream** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 9:11 am

this would be a nice world but for the humans that infest it.

mikeinie · Post by **mikeinie** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 9:21 am

They say at work, never write an email on impulse when you are mad, once it is sent, there is no taking it back.

The written word is different than the spoken because it is more subjective to interpretation and implied expression.

One risk with posting messages is that it is an immediate response thing, and because people are not face to face it is too easy to throw out words that you would never speak in person. Once said, it is hard to take back or apologies because of the public forum, and there is no need to because of the cyber friendships.

How about those who offended each other offer words of reconciliation? Probably not, because it is easier to escalate the situation until someone moves on our out, there is no need for forgiveness. It is a good thing real life is not like that (well, maybe it is in some cases).

If you would not be prepared to say it out lowed, don’t put it in writing.

Remember:

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 9:36 am

Clancy;667849 wrote: .

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Better than, mugs, t-shirts, and buddy lists .........probably.

oh brother.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 9:37 am

minks;667851 wrote: oh brother.
Where art thou?

You forgot the second line in the title Minks.

Post by **spot** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 9:59 am

Go on then Clance, tell me what was ironic in there. It was meant as history. Stare as I might, the irony escapes me.

Welcome back - I've been expecting you for days.

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 10:17 am

*clang*

That was the sound of my heart sinking

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 10:21 am

YZGI;667852 wrote: Where art thou?

You forgot the second line in the title Minks.

oh Curse my ADHD it happens all the time, thanks for picking up the slack there YZzee.

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 11:49 am

You want to see evil? You want to see nastiness? Oh by god you just crossed the wrong person.

that was the threat mags ok ,i am not a person to be scared and like you i will say what i want,i guess that makes me and you the same

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:13 pm

magenta flame;667912 wrote: My god, that's considered a threat? no neffy we are nothing alike

:-3:-3

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:17 pm

magenta flame;667912 wrote: My god, that's considered a threat? no neffy we are nothing alike

really :wah::wah:

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:17 pm

magenta flame;667912 wrote: My god, that's considered a threat? no neffy we are nothing alike

i think you are like twins

:D

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:18 pm

i mean even neff and mf sound alike

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:20 pm

no maybe not jimbo :wah::wah:

[love]light · Post by **[love]light** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:20 pm

i think this whole ordeal is melodramatic. do you know each other outside of FG? its just cyber world. its not real. what are the threats? this isn't "The Ring". No one is going to climb thru anyone's monitor.

that being said...

everyone have a lovely day.

:-6

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:22 pm

Is there any way we could have a Blue team and a Red team. I have no idea who is mad at who. Okay, me and Jimbo will start the Blue shirt with the Red stripe team. Sign ups will be announced at a later date.:wah:

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:22 pm

'[love wrote: light;667918']i think this whole ordeal is melodramatic. do you know each other outside of FG? its just cyber world. its not real. what are the threats? this isn't "The Ring". No one is going to climb thru anyone's monitor.

that being said...

everyone have a lovely day.

:-6

You never know.....................................................................:sneaky:

:)

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:22 pm

'[love wrote: light;667918']i think this whole ordeal is melodramatic. do you know each other outside of FG? its just cyber world. its not real. what are the threats? this isn't "The Ring". No one is going to climb thru anyone's monitor.

that being said...

everyone have a lovely day.

:-6

i think you are right there.your right it is a loads b....ks i think i will go it a day

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:24 pm

YZGI;667920 wrote: Is there any way we could have a Blue team and a Red team. I have no idea who is mad at who. Okay, me and Jimbo will start the Blue shirt with the Red stripe team. Sign ups will be announced at a later date.:wah:

I'm clearly in the audience...don't want to get blood on pretty new dress!! :yh_chickn

:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

[love]light · Post by **[love]light** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:24 pm

YZGI;667920 wrote: Is there any way we could have a Blue team and a Red team. I have no idea who is mad at who. Okay, me and Jimbo will start the Blue shirt with the Red stripe team. Sign ups will be announced at a later date.:wah:

ha ha ha ha. Im confused on which team i'm batting for

koan · Post by **koan** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:24 pm

'[love wrote: light;667918']i think this whole ordeal is melodramatic. do you know each other outside of FG? its just cyber world. its not real. what are the threats? this isn't "The Ring". No one is going to climb thru anyone's monitor.

that being said...

everyone have a lovely day.

:-6

actually, some of us do know each other in real life and if someone wants to mess with your world it can be done. people have been known to lose jobs and marriages, real stalkers materialise, people have killed themselves from online bullying... lots of damage can be done.

There are many mistakes that are made online, don't underestimate how much someone can harm you just because they are on the internet. Better to be safe.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:26 pm

koan;667927 wrote: actually, some of us do know each other in real life and if someone wants to mess with your world it can be done. people have been known to lose jobs and marriages, real stalkers materialise, people have killed themselves from online bullying... lots of damage can be done.

There are many mistakes that are made online, don't underestimate how much someone can harm you just because they are on the internet. Better to be safe.
Thanks Koan, Now i must turn off my lights and hide under the bed. Call me when the sun comes up.

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:27 pm

koan;667927 wrote: actually, some of us do know each other in real life and if someone wants to mess with your world it can be done. people have been known to lose jobs and marriages, real stalkers materialise, people have killed themselves from online bullying... lots of damage can be done.

There are many mistakes that are made online, don't underestimate how much someone can harm you just because they are on the internet. Better to be safe.

Words of wisdom :-6

Now cut the crap, whose side you on :wah:

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:28 pm

fair enough koan i think it should be closed now

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:29 pm

SuzyB;667931 wrote: Words of wisdom :-6

Now cut the crap, whose side you on :wah:

koanie is a mercenary

she is on the side of who pays the most :wah:

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:29 pm

neffy;667932 wrote: fair enough koan i think it should be closed now

Oh come on Neffs 14 people on this thread, it's just getting going :sneaky::rolleyes:

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:30 pm

neffy;667932 wrote: fair enough koan i think it should be closed now

nooooo

i have not been threatened yet i'm on a roll :wah::wah:

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:30 pm

SuzyB;667934 wrote: Oh come on Neffs 14 people on this thread, it's just getting going :sneaky::rolleyes:

no i am shy suzy :wah::wah:

[love]light · Post by **[love]light** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:30 pm

koan;667927 wrote: actually, some of us do know each other in real life and if someone wants to mess with your world it can be done. people have been known to lose jobs and marriages, real stalkers materialise, people have killed themselves from online bullying... lots of damage can be done.

There are many mistakes that are made online, don't underestimate how much someone can harm you just because they are on the internet. Better to be safe.

Just as NotToday, AlmostFamous, & I all have been friends for many many many years. I was asking if the folks having it out knew each other.

Be safe is right. Common Sense tells us to:

- Not give out personal information online

and

-Keep a STRONG hold of the world outside your computer

Life is a beautiful thing. No need to add excess drama to muck it all up.

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:32 pm

love light i think every so often things just blow out :-3

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:33 pm

No one gets along all the time and some people not at all, thats life, if people expect any different they are either naive or stupid imo.

Post by **spot** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:33 pm

koan;667927 wrote: don't underestimate how much someone can harm you just because they are on the internet. Better to be safe.I quite enjoy you beating the crap out of the usual suspects, but turning the evil eye on a newbie like that is a bit strong! That's tantamount to "raise your eyes in my presence again and I'll nail your cat to a fencepost before the week's out".

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:34 pm

neffy;667932 wrote: fair enough koan i think it should be closed now
Excuse me, Teams have not been established yet. Duh!!:wah:

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:34 pm

i dont even know who is fighting with who to be honest i just thought a few jokes might make who ever is fighting to chill out a bit

:D

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:35 pm

spot;667942 wrote: I quite enjoy you beating the crap out of the usual suspects, but turning the evil eye on a newbie like that is a bit strong! That's tantamount to "raise your eyes in my presence again and I'll nail your cat to a fencepost before the week's out".

You being nasty to Koan, Spot???? I'm not having it, your not too far for me

to come and sort you out :rolleyes:

[love]light · Post by **[love]light** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:35 pm

neffy;667940 wrote: love light i think every so often things just blow out :-3

yea, i know it. i try very hard to keep my head above water, but sometimes we all get dunked

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:36 pm

jimbo;667944 wrote: i dont even know who is fighting with who to be honest i just thought a few jokes might make who ever is fighting to chill out a bit

:D

The thread was dying til you arrived :wah:

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:37 pm

jimbo;667944 wrote: i dont even know who is fighting with who to be honest i just thought a few jokes might make who ever is fighting to chill out a bit

:D
I haven't seen the jokes or the fighting, Any time you're ready jimbo go on and start the jokes mate.