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Lon · Post by **Lon** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 1:02 pm

I guess we all do it, but it does present a bit of a problem and can be responsible for some of the nasty posts that some get involved in. I see questions being raised that had already been answered in preceding posts of the same thread. I see explanations being completely ignored. I see responses that have no relationship to the initial post. Good communication should be important to all of us, be it face to face in the non cyber world, or online posting. In an attempt at better communication for all of us, I humbly suggest that we take the time to read the initial post and those that follow.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 1:05 pm

I actualy do that Lon. I want to make sure I know what is going on in the thread before I post.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 1:06 pm

:wah:

Will never happen in a forum context, people see what they want to see.

Nice thought tho Lon :-4

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 1:25 pm

Lon;671890 wrote: I guess we all do it, but it does present a bit of a problem and can be responsible for some of the nasty posts that some get involved in. I see questions being raised that had already been answered in preceding posts of the same thread. I see explanations being completely ignored. I see responses that have no relationship to the initial post. Good communication should be important to all of us, be it face to face in the non cyber world, or online posting. In an attempt at better communication for all of us, I humbly suggest that we take the time to read the initial post and those that follow.

Good communication is key to effective interaction on any level.

Sadly, I take so long to reply to most posts that half a dozen people can have answered before my post's ready to send.

I'll occasionally fire off a reply to a post before I've reached the end of a thread if I feel that a point needs making as a personal statement whether or not someone else has done so but be sure I'll have read what was there to read.

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 1:31 pm

i read post but i sometimes dont understand,so i tend not to reply

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 1:31 pm

It is a good thought, and as time permits I try to read all preceeding posts.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 1:56 pm

Lon;671890 wrote: I guess we all do it, but it does present a bit of a problem and can be responsible for some of the nasty posts that some get involved in. I see questions being raised that had already been answered in preceding posts of the same thread. I see explanations being completely ignored. I see responses that have no relationship to the initial post. Good communication should be important to all of us, be it face to face in the non cyber world, or online posting. In an attempt at better communication for all of us, I humbly suggest that we take the time to read the initial post and those that follow.

Good point, I spose it all depends on who replies some of us are just here for fun conversation, while others seek the more serious nature of communication. Absolutely our posts get derailed often, I think that is up to the initiater (spelling sorry) of the post to get it back on track if they are looking for seriousness as opposed to the fun light hearted convo many of us indulge in. For me it's a matter of nobody takes me serious so I post silliness.

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:12 pm

minks;671919 wrote: Good point, I spose it all depends on who replies some of us are just here for fun conversation, while others seek the more serious nature of communication. Absolutely our posts get derailed often, I think that is up to the initiater (spelling sorry) of the post to get it back on track if they are looking for seriousness as opposed to the fun light hearted convo many of us indulge in. For me it's a matter of nobody takes me serious so I post silliness.

Even silliness, humor and light hearted conversation gets mis understood.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:16 pm

Lon;671940 wrote: Even silliness, humor and light hearted conversation gets mis understood.

oh you got that right, I think it's because some people get over sensative or misread the lack of emotion. Seems emotion plays a key in how things are interpreted. And heck some people just plain like controversy when it comes to some posting styles.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:16 pm

Its not what you write, its how people interperate it.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:19 pm

buttercup;671950 wrote: Its not what you write, its how people interperate it.

yes and no some I rarely have someone misunderstanding what I write.

neffy · Post by **neffy** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:21 pm

minks;671953 wrote: yes and no some I rarely have someone misunderstanding what I write.

i dont :wah:

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:25 pm

neffy;671955 wrote: i dont :wah:

aww shucks

:-4

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:28 pm

Everyone always takes my posts wrong. No one takes me seriously. Now don't anyone skip this post.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:31 pm

YZGI;671965 wrote: Everyone always takes my posts wrong. No one takes me seriously. Now don't anyone skip this post.

you are such a joke, I am slapping my knee laughing with you, no wait I am laughing at you, no I am just plain laughing will you ever be serious dang it ZY dummy up will ya.:wah::wah:

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:33 pm

minks;671968 wrote: you are such a joke, I am slapping my knee laughing with you, no wait I am laughing at you, no I am just plain laughing will you ever be serious dang it ZY dummy up will ya.:wah::wah:
Good girl, you didn't skip.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:34 pm

YZGI;671973 wrote: Good girl, you didn't skip.

I stalk you, and see we derailed Lons thread. Sorry Lon.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:36 pm

minks;671976 wrote: I stalk you, and see we derailed Lons thread. Sorry Lon.
It's not stalking when we there are only a very few posting. At least that is what I tell myself as I stalk you. Hey we're on topic... just watch..

No skipping this post Nomad I see you.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:36 pm

Lon;671890 wrote: I guess we all do it, but it does present a bit of a problem and can be responsible for some of the nasty posts that some get involved in. I see questions being raised that had already been answered in preceding posts of the same thread. I see explanations being completely ignored. I see responses that have no relationship to the initial post. Good communication should be important to all of us, be it face to face in the non cyber world, or online posting. In an attempt at better communication for all of us, I humbly suggest that we take the time to read the initial post and those that follow.

I wonder if a hot sandwich shop would do well in Antarctica ?

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:37 pm

Nomad;671980 wrote: I wonder if a hot sandwich shop would do well in Antarctica ?
Good point

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:38 pm

Nomad;671980 wrote: I wonder if a hot sandwich shop would do well in Antarctica ?

PENALTY! blatant derailment.!!!

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:38 pm

As I am new here,I find it hard to keep up sometimes. I do like the light hearted comments between members,it keeps friendships close and buildes new ones. anyone can always post and get back on topic. and if it dosen't then all who want to comment ,have.

I always apperciate comments anyone makes to what I have posted. And try to reply,if I can think of something to say. It lets me know you guys don't think I am some kind of weirdo or have a personality disorder. :-3 :p

Sorry if it gets anyones thread of topic.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:39 pm

YZGI;671981 wrote: Good point

I had a point ! I had a point ! :-6

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:40 pm

Nomad;671986 wrote: I had a point ! I had a point ! :-6
I was just acknowledging the fact that I didn't skip the post, I didn't say I understood it.:wah:

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:41 pm

FuzzyNavel;671984 wrote: As I am new here,I find it hard to keep up sometimes. I do like the light hearted comments between members,it keeps friendships close and buildes new ones. anyone can always post and get back on topic. and if it dosen't then all who want to comment ,have.

I always apperciate comments anyone makes to what I have posted. And try to reply,if I can think of something to say. It lets me know you guys don't think I am some kind of weirdo or have a personality disorder. :-3 :p

Sorry if it gets anyones thread of topic.
The first sign of a personality disorder is telling people you don't have one.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:42 pm

YZGI;671987 wrote: I was just acknowledging the fact that I didn't skip the post, I didn't say I understood it.:wah:

you need 3 engineering degrees to understand Nomad or maybe just the ability to read braille is good enough I am sure he uses that between the lines.

Eeek darn it Lon is hating us by now I am sure.

Stop provoking me.

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:46 pm

YZGI;671989 wrote: The first sign of a personality disorder is telling people you don't have one.

Oh no......my cover is blown

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:49 pm

Nomad;671980 wrote: I wonder if a hot sandwich shop would do well in Antarctica ?

The Mc Murdo Base has got one already.

Beware as Jupiter and Pluto come into juxtaposition causing heavenly disturbances.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:50 pm

minks;671991 wrote: you need 3 engineering degrees to understand Nomad or maybe just the ability to read braille is good enough I am sure he uses that between the lines.

Eeek darn it Lon is hating us by now I am sure.

Stop provoking me.

My work is done here.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:51 pm

Actually Lon has kinda grown on me. Not unlike that toe fungus he has. Im sorry for being rude to you a couple of weeks ago Lon.

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:54 pm

Nomad;672002 wrote: Actually Lon has kinda grown on me. Not unlike that toe fungus he has. Im sorry for being rude to you a couple of weeks ago Lon.

I'm too old and callused to be overly sensitive.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 2:57 pm

Lon;672006 wrote: I'm too old and callused to be overly sensitive.

Are the calluses from the fungus ?

Lisa · Post by **Lisa** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 3:02 pm

If it wasnt for Lon I wouldnt be here. I remembered how I found this place. I googled something about Only Childern. And Lon had started a topic about it. Google found it,and so did I . And the rest they say is history.

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 3:09 pm

Lon is here to keep us grounded.

Nomad is here so we don't take ourselves so seriously.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 3:09 pm

along-for-the-ride;672015 wrote: Lon is here to keep us grounded.

Nomad is here so we don't take ourselves so seriously.

Om My God ! I have a purpose. What a day :-6

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 3:14 pm

along-for-the-ride;672015 wrote: Lon is here to keep us grounded.

Nomad is here so we don't take ourselves so seriously.

Anyway I think Lon is hilarious.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 3:15 pm

Nomad;672016 wrote: Om My God ! I have a purpose. What a day :-6

candy all around.

Indian Princess · Post by **Indian Princess** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 3:38 pm

-I agree with buttercup, people interpet what they want to out of a statement as innocent as it is

koan · Post by **koan** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 3:42 pm

There are a few techniques for improving communication. The most effective one I've tried is repeating back to someone what you think they said before criticising or responding to it. Many times that clears up misunderstandings right away.

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 4:13 pm

Indian Princess;672039 wrote: -I agree with buttercup, people interpet what they want to out of a statement as innocent as it is

Are you saying then, that it is the reader of the post that's at fault if the post is not understood, and not the poster?

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Tue Jul 31, 2007 4:22 pm

Lon;672054 wrote: Are you saying then, that it is the reader of the post that's at fault if the post is not understood, and not the poster?

Not at all times but, yes. That is quite often the case.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Wed Aug 01, 2007 1:47 am

Lon;672054 wrote: Are you saying then, that it is the reader of the post that's at fault if the post is not understood, and not the poster?

I have questioned this of myself as you know Lon. What i think is pretty easy to understand in my posts has been taken many different ways, sometimes i have found it frustrating but by n large ive come to accept its just part of forum life.

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Wed Aug 01, 2007 6:46 am

this whole thread has me confused! :yh_silly

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Wed Aug 01, 2007 7:33 am

sunny104;672301 wrote: this whole thread has me confused! :yh_silly

You're blonde , right?:D

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed Aug 01, 2007 7:37 am

buttercup;672186 wrote: I have questioned this of myself as you know Lon. What i think is pretty easy to understand in my posts has been taken many different ways, sometimes i have found it frustrating but by n large ive come to accept its just part of forum life.

I think too the longer we are in one forum the easier it is to interpret ones style. I know I will read some posts and think OMG this person is just itching for a battle so I have to go back and re-read and realize no they just have a different way of stating things. It's both poster style, and readers interpretation that come into play.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Wed Aug 01, 2007 7:39 am

minks;672328 wrote: I think too the longer we are in one forum the easier it is to interpret ones style. I know I will read some posts and think OMG this person is just itching for a battle so I have to go back and re-read and realize no they just have a different way of stating things. It's both poster style, and readers interpretation that come into play.
Yeah its crazy, some post like Canuks some like UK's and some like Usa's, not to mention the blondes.:wah:

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Wed Aug 01, 2007 7:42 am

YZGI;672325 wrote: You're blonde , right?:D

yes.

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Wed Aug 01, 2007 8:22 am

buttercup;672186 wrote: I have questioned this of myself as you know Lon. What i think is pretty easy to understand in my posts has been taken many different ways, sometimes i have found it frustrating but by n large ive come to accept its just part of forum life.

If a post is taken in many different ways by many different people, wouldn't you think that perhaps the poster has not communicated very well?

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed Aug 01, 2007 8:29 am

Lon;672374 wrote: If a post is taken in many different ways by many different people, wouldn't you think that perhaps the poster has not communicated very well?

I wold agree with you there yes.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Wed Aug 01, 2007 8:58 am

I would also tend to agree with that statement Lon & yet have been surprised at how many ways something which seems so obvious can be taken.

Some members will get it, some wont.