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swedeace

<t>Thank you all for your opinions! 
 
 
 
HmmÃ¢â‚¬¦ itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s always been a touchy area, in my opinion. For instance, I have observed those individuals who seem to be socially-adaptive seem to not care about losing friendships. And those who are not as socially-adaptive seem to ...

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<r>I recently began wondering this burning question. I guess I am looking for answers through a sociological-interactive perspective: 
 
 
 
Is friendship something humans learn how to handle/maintain? Or, is friendship just an innate instinctive quality we possess? 
 
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<r>flopstock wrote: See, this tells me you are a young person. Why? Because all of us old farts in here would be saying..NOT MY FAULT! , I am the way I am, It's my sisters fault..etc... 
 
 
 
But you...you're actually taking corrective action instead of copping out. And that ...

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I couldn't comment. I've never been in love or dated, for that matter. I will comment when the time has come.

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<t>What I am trying to say in my last two posts is that - yes, I DO realize my anxious behaviors created "hanging on" actions. These are quite unhealthy. I am saying that I DO realize it now. 
 
My emotional/person problem goes beyond "the norm." I have a personal problem that I have ...

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<t>lady cop wrote: swedeace said..to kindly let me down with his disinterest ........which is precisely what i said and i was the only person you didn't respond to....i get this a lot, i tell the truth like with angel66 and they don't want to hear it, they want tea and sympathy instead, only it ...

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<t>swedeace wrote: Well, I will go ahead and explain it as briefly and to the point as possible to those who haven't been keeping up with my threads: 
 
 
 
Basically, I met this guy last summer at my job (he's a student while I am a computer lab technician), and I *thought* he ...

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Thanks for answering!

I read that in an email, so I assumed "candy corn" meant "Capricorn." I will just ask the person to clarify, then. I wanted to ask first before asking the person. Thanks!

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<r>Long shot in the dark, but does anyone know what "Candy Corn" means in Astrology? Is that just a nickname for "Capricorn?" Anyone know? I heard that one of the signs is a bull, so sometimes people shorten it by saying, "I'm a bull in Astrology!" for a Taurus. So, does "candy corn" mean the same ...

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<r>Betty Boop wrote: He said he is 'not taken', what the hell does that mean? - he's not married or something? If he hasn't currently got a girlfreind then why didn't he just say 'i'm not with anyone at the moment.Oooops.. my bad....I read the email wrong. He said, "I'm not seeing anybody." I jumped ...

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<t>What is everyone talking about? :-2 
 
 
 
He actually did not say "I just want to be friends" in that manner. He mentioned, "I liked talking with you and hope we can do it more." He also mentioned, "If you want to talk about anything, you know you can come to me" and "I'm ...

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<r>nvalleyvee wrote: You'd better ask him if he has a girlfriend first - some "shy guys" are just taken elsewhere. That question opens up a whole world of convo if he's not taken.He already told me in the email. He said he is "not taken" and he is "not gay." But I believe just being there for him ...

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<r>I GOT an email from the guy today!!! AHHH!!!! <E>:)</E> I mean, that is just SO sweet of him to do!!! He was sorry for having kept me a while, and he had a sense of humor telling me I can curse him out and even place Voodoo on him - how funny! He mentioned to me he's not into dating now (he also ...

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<t>lady cop wrote: i suspect you are young, you say you have never had a date...now tell us why you REALLY think that is. even the statement above that i quoted shows desperation because nobody here was commenting. time to get honest with yourself. only then can you get to the root of your perceived ...

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<r>Where are all those people who were wanting to know updates about my approach? Not many have been posting? <E>:(</E> 
 
I am still playing the waiting game, unfortunately.... I had a dream I received his phone call and we began talking, but I woke up suddenly. It felt so real. What makes ...

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<r>Thanks so much, Chocobo! Great story of yours - truly inspirational in that all things are possible... who knows? If he calls me, I don't even know how it'll work out, but I'd just like to give it a try. He's gorgeous, smart, AND nice to talk with! :-4 
 
Believe me, it was no easy task ...

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<r>Thanks, Tinseltoes! <E>:D</E> 
 
Oh, and I failed to mention something else.... 
 
Being a somewhat shy person myself, I found it SO terrifying and incredibly difficult to go UP to my crush and begin initiating conversation. That is usually SO not me! What helps is knowing there ...

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<r>I ended up taking all the advice I read in this forum as well as what friends have told me and what IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ve read in Ã¢â‚¬Å“flirting tipsÃ¢â‚¬ resources and combined them all to make my final decision on how to approach my crush. I used nearly every tip except for the Ã¢â‚¬Å“leave him alone ...

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I have to update you all on what has happened, but I will have to write it up and then post it. Hint: It *is* "going" well for me but not there yet.

More later.... So thank you all for the advice!!! :yh_kiss

Be back soon....

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<r>I want to thank you all for your insightful information AND for your warm welcomes! I don't think I've ever received the same warm welcome and welcoming messages in any other advice-seeking forum as I have in this one. It makes me WANT to come back here. <E>:)</E> 
 
I have SO many ...

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<t>Hi everyone! 
 
I REALLY need some advice and hope someone (or a lot of people) can really help me on this one. It's kinda long.... 
 
Well, here goes.... 
 
I work in a computer lab facility at a college, and I just began noticing this student. I've been noticing him all ...

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<t>ScoupeSlave: Thanks for your words! Yeah, you make a lot of sense. It's just a shame because when we talked about various things, it just felt like there could be a friendship connection there. I grew excited. He says "sure" everytime I have asked, and I've given him my number, but there was no ...

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<r>Thank you so much for your words, especially, Abbey. I am a person who doesn't give up. So yeah, I do realize to leave the ball in his court and see what he will do or if he will contact me or what. He is super busy, and he may not feel like he has time to maintain another friendship. Who knows ...

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<t>Well, I will go ahead and explain it as briefly and to the point as possible to those who haven't been keeping up with my threads: 
 
Basically, I met this guy last summer at my job (he's a student while I am a computer lab technician), and I *thought* he offered friendship to me when he ...

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<r>letha wrote: So my advice is, keep emailing him, telling him your news etc. Men don't always answer but it doesn't mean they don't want to be friends, they just don't do gossip as well as women. If he talks on the phone (proper conversation I mean) then give him a call once in a while.<br ...

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<t>minks wrote: Well if he is simply a friend you ought to have no troubles just calling him up and asking him to do something with you or just have a chat. It becomes more complex when it is seen as more than "just friends" Go for it jump in and ask him for a meal or coffee or drink, or opinion etc ...

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A Karenina wrote: I think that's normal, and healthy. But it is easier on the net because we are all sexless.
Yeah, that's true. I was thinking about that question earlier and came to the conclusion that it's based on our commonalities with either sex.

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<r>Jack Sprat wrote: Why would sex make you cross? 
 
OK - hit me for that one. 
:wah: Are you kidding? Cross-sex means "opposite sex" such as a male individual befriending a female individual like a female individual befriending a male individual. <E>;)</E> 
 
So the question ...

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<t>Okay, other than the usual million topics I see in friendship message boards involving "I think I am in love with my friend," I'd like to read shared advantages/disadvantages of cross-sex friendships? In other words, what is a casual way of reminding a cross-sex acquaintance (not yet a friend but ...

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<r>SongSeeker: Thank you so much for your honest advice. Yeah, I don't know what it is about me and my past and present choices of people who I want to befriend. I guess there's something behind them that I seem to choose. No, I don't feel offended. In fact, it gives me insight. Thanks again. <E ...

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<r>Peg wrote: Hopefully you don't take this the wrong way, but it sounds like you are desperate for friendship and maybe too clingy? Try backing off a little and giving him some space. It is quite possible he is just too busy right now and will respond when he has time to come up for air.<br ...

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<r>Bill Sikes: I see what you mean... there's just one safe assumption: he's gay. That's why I *know* there will never be anything, and I wouldn't *even* wanna try. It's a long story of how we became friends. :-3 
 
I have always valued friendships above anything else, so when HE proposed ...

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<r>I'm female, and my friend's male. Why? <EMOJI seq="1f615" tseq="1f615">:confused:</EMOJI> 
 
And no, this is NOT about romance. Not one bit... Not before, not now, or not never.... It's ONLY the focus on our friendship. What does it signify and do I just wait for his correspondence ...

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<t>Update: 
 
Okay, I tried it, and it failed. Actually, I left a message on his cellphone's answering machine about two weeks ago. 
 
Here's a little bit of history of this friendship... 
 
I met this friend at my job this past mid-July 2004. I work at a community college's ...

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Any ideas out there?? I need input badly... Time is getting closer....

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<r>One of my newest friends, whom I met two months ago, is going to have a birthday in about a month. I would love to think early on of a special birthday celebration for him. He offered friendship to me because he was touched I originally asked him out when I didn't know he is gay. I became so ...

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Thanks, Peg. I will!

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Aww.... you're all too sweet. Thanks for the warm welcome...

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<r>Peg wrote: Instead of "let's hang out sometime" try "I am going to ______. Wanna come?" 
Yeah, I guess you're right about it being as simple as that. I seem to think too hard of something before I ask my friends such a question in order to think of a certain place beforehand. I'll give it a ...

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<r>:-3 
 
Eeek... I don't know how to start, but here goes.... 
 
I am new here. I just registered about five minutes ago and posted a new thread in the "Friendships and Relationships" area. My main interest nowadays is in the friendship area. They are very important to me. They ...

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<r>It seems that I seem to make friendships with people who seem to always be busy and have no hang-out time. By this, I mean... Okay, I understand people are busy and everything with life, but it seems that I hardly get to see/talk with my friends or to hang out with them outside of certain ...

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